Have you ever dated or had a brief fling w/ someone who made it all too easy to walk away from him/her? I know that sounds twisted because you don’t enter relationships to hope for a clean break at the end but luckily this in fact happened to me.
Right before I met CJ I had a brief fling w/ a certain guy, let’s call him Abe, and it really was all a matter of friend association. We all hung out and then when it came time to pair up I wound up w/ Abe. I had been single for a while and drowning a lil in self pity. This man at first helped lift my spirits up. He made me laugh, told me I was pretty, and told me I wasn’t like other girls yada yada. My weekends were booked and I had a warm shoulder to lay my head on. But the other sides of his personality reared their ugly heads.
He was a total jerk and if any man or woman tells you “Quantity over Quality” in regards to relationships, just turn and walk away.
One night I did exactly that. It’s been about 2 years now since all of this crap, and I honestly forget the conversation that pushed me over the edge. After about 3 months of this fling, I got up, picked up my high heels, and rushed for the door. I think I had found out I was just a penny in Abe’s life… “One out of Many”…and I didn’t even say goodbye. I looked him dead in the eye and just walked away. The door was right there welcoming me and I walked calmly out of it. I didn’t even cry, not once.
Abe tried to come back in my life 6 months after, and then again, but I didn’t answer the phone or respond to any text. That door was so closed behind me.
Fast forward to now…My friend Zoe, is still friends w/ Abe and when I spoke to her briefly yesterday she started off the conversation as, “You Escaped!” I was like “Huh?” and she responded, “Everyone’s joking about how Melanie escaped from Abe! HA!” Apparently she found out Abe is now married and having his first kid in a few weeks. They got married for health insurance reasons. She says he’s changed and is looking forward to be a father. BUT then she told me he asked about how I was doing & said he missed me… You have a baby on the way and your married and you’re still asking about a girl who dumped you over 2 years ago? I told Zoe there’s your answer on if he has truly changed…
This all irked me a lil bit and I figured out why. I did escape his trap of a life w/ him. He wasn’t the most careful of men in certain areas, but I was a lil too wise beyond my years w/ him too. I wasn’t going to play the game anymore and hope he got nicer to me down the line. He had told me he wanted to get married one day & have kids and be a good father. It all sounded sweet, but then he would belittle me w/ such a quick jab comment that it could give you whip plash from the swiftness. It truly boggles my mind how people could be so nice one minute and then such a horror the next. Yeah, he could have changed, but I still have to let out a sigh of relief it’s some other girl w/ him now, not me.
Now I’m w/ such a great man who tells me he loves me at the end of every phone call. CJ and I maybe planning a vacation to San Antonio, Texas and then a road trip to Phoenix, AZ. This is a future I look forward to a lil more each day. What an amazing difference 2 years will make…