Two weekends ago, my cousin’s fiancée, Carol, had her Bridal Shower at my Aunt’s house. Everyone knows there has been a lot of tension regarding this wedding & the events that are preceding the big day on May 20th, and the Bridal shower was no exception. I’m almost thankful for these mishaps because whenever my big day comes or other friends of mine I’m definitely more knowledgeable now on the “Wedding Subject” then I was a year ago.
Background on the Bridal Shower:
Carol’s maid of honor lives in North Carolina, ergo my Aunt, her future mother-in-law threw her a bridal shower. Contrary to my lil cousin’s beliefs, the mother of the groom IS NOT traditionally supposed to throw the shower. My lil cousin, the groom’s sister, who is 23 years old thinks she has “taught me a lesson” by correcting me on who is supposed to do it when I asked about the maid of honor. She really needs to see the movie, “Bridesmaids” & shut up. Traditionally it’s the maid of honor or the Bridesmaids pool together but hey, I thought it was an awesome gesture to the bride from her future extended family. Okay, let’s get started.
What NOT to do at a House Bridal Shower…
1. If it is a House Shower, PLEASE FUTURE BRIDES DO NOT WAIT UNTIL ALL THE GUESTS HAVE ARRIVED TO JOIN THE PARTY!!!! Come downstairs or enter the Bridal Shower Room when your guests start arriving.
~ Apparently Carol wanted a grand entrance with all her shower guests there at once so she didn't come downstairs until 2 hours AFTER the party had started. Her family waited all that time for her. If I heard, "Where's Carol", one more time I was going to flip out. Then ladies please do not complain that your bridal shower was too short. ~
2. If you are a family member of the Bride & Groom aka my lil cousin, DO NOT TELL YOUR FUTURE SISTER-IN LAW TO HURRY UP OPENING PRESENTS BECAUSE PEOPLE WANT TO LEAVE.
~My lil cousin muttered that to Carol, half-way through the shower. I'm sorry that was rude. Yes, Carol was late to the party & taking time to open presents but that was mean. I later found out lil cousin was the only one that wanted to leave. ~
3. If a Bridal Shower is being thrown for you, DO NOT COME TO THE PARTY AND CHANGE THE DECORATIONS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT TO YOUR LIKING. IT WILL RUB PEOPLE THE WRONG WAY!
~ Part of my family's gift to Carol was the Bridal Shower and they took the whole day before to decorate for it. Carol came into the house and changed everything that they did. Not the smartest move because I think another one of my Aunts was offended in some way because they put in a lot of hard work for Carol.
4. We all love pictures, but future brides...YOU DON'T NEED A PICTURE WITH EVERY SINGLE GIFT. YOU SHOULD TAKE A PICTURE INSTEAD WITH EVERY PERSON.
~ Carol took a picture w/ every single gift w/ different angles. But then after the shower was upset she didn't get a picture w/ every person. The people are definitely I think more important not to miss out on a photo-op.
5. After the shower, DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT THE SHOWER THAT WAS THROWN FOR YOU BECAUSE IT WAS A GIFT & EVERYONE WILL FIND OUT THAT YOU WERE DISPLEASED. (It will not go over well with the people who planned it for you.)
~Carol apparently wasn't that happy w/ the shower & told her fiancee. Of course he told everyone. Carol really is a nice person, but this wedding has turned her into an almost manic compulsive "I want this & that my way" person making the gossip wheel for her not that great right now. ~
All in all, I'm hoping the wedding is beautiful and I wish the best for my cousin & Carol. The wedding is in 18 days. I just got my Bridesmaid's dress back too & the alteration is perfect. Almost there...Almost Wedding #1 Down. Can't wait!
Do you know of anymore Do's & Do Not's at Bridal Showers??
I'd love to hear...