Wednesday, May 2, 2012

What “NOT” To Do At A House Bridal Shower…


Two weekends ago, my cousin’s fiancĂ©e, Carol, had her Bridal Shower at my Aunt’s house.  Everyone knows there has been a lot of tension regarding this wedding & the events that are preceding the big day on May 20th, and the Bridal shower was no exception. I’m almost thankful for these mishaps because whenever my big day comes or other friends of mine I’m definitely more knowledgeable now on the “Wedding Subject” then I was a year ago.

Background on the Bridal Shower:

Carol’s maid of honor lives in North Carolina, ergo my Aunt, her future mother-in-law threw her a bridal shower. Contrary to my lil cousin’s beliefs, the mother of the groom IS NOT traditionally supposed to throw the shower. My lil cousin, the groom’s sister, who is 23 years old thinks she has “taught me a lesson” by correcting me on who is supposed to do it when I asked about the maid of honor. She really needs to see the movie, “Bridesmaids” & shut up. Traditionally it’s the maid of honor or the Bridesmaids pool together but hey, I thought it was an awesome gesture to the bride from her future extended family. Okay, let’s get started.

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What NOT to do at a House Bridal Shower…

1. If it is a House Shower, PLEASE FUTURE BRIDES DO NOT WAIT UNTIL ALL THE GUESTS HAVE ARRIVED TO JOIN THE PARTY!!!!  Come downstairs or enter the Bridal Shower Room when your guests start arriving. 

~ Apparently Carol wanted a grand entrance with all her shower guests there at once so she didn't come downstairs until 2 hours AFTER the party had started. Her family waited all that time for her. If I heard, "Where's Carol", one more time I was going to flip out. Then ladies please do not complain that your bridal shower was too short. ~

2. If you are a family member of the Bride & Groom aka my lil cousin, DO NOT TELL YOUR FUTURE SISTER-IN LAW TO HURRY UP OPENING PRESENTS BECAUSE PEOPLE WANT TO LEAVE.

~My lil cousin muttered that to Carol, half-way through the shower. I'm sorry that was rude. Yes, Carol was late to the party & taking time to open presents but that was mean. I later found out lil cousin was the only one that wanted to leave. ~

3. If a Bridal Shower is being thrown for you, DO NOT COME TO THE PARTY AND CHANGE THE DECORATIONS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT TO YOUR LIKING. IT WILL RUB PEOPLE THE WRONG WAY!

Part of my family's gift to Carol was the Bridal Shower and they took the whole day before to decorate for it. Carol came into the house and changed everything that they did. Not the smartest move because I think another one of my Aunts was offended in some way because they put in a lot of hard work for Carol.

4. We all love pictures, but future brides...YOU DON'T NEED A PICTURE WITH EVERY SINGLE GIFT. YOU SHOULD TAKE A PICTURE INSTEAD WITH EVERY PERSON.

~ Carol took a picture w/ every single gift w/ different angles. But then after the shower was upset she didn't get a picture w/ every person. The people are definitely I think more important not to miss out on a photo-op. 

5. After the shower, DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT THE SHOWER THAT WAS THROWN FOR YOU BECAUSE IT WAS A GIFT & EVERYONE WILL FIND OUT THAT YOU WERE DISPLEASED. (It will not go over well with the people who planned it for you.)

~Carol apparently wasn't that happy w/ the shower & told her fiancee. Of course he told everyone. Carol really is a nice person, but this wedding has turned her into an almost manic compulsive "I want this & that my way" person making the gossip wheel for her not that great right now. ~

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All in all, I'm hoping the wedding is beautiful and I wish the best for my cousin & Carol. The wedding is in 18 days. I just got my Bridesmaid's dress back too & the alteration is perfect. Almost there...Almost Wedding #1 Down. Can't wait! 

Do you know of anymore Do's & Do Not's at Bridal Showers??

I'd love to hear...

9 comments:

  1. Haha these are GREAT tips, Mel! :)

    I actually haven't been to that many wedding showers either. I went to one a few months ago that also had quite a few "do nots". My cousin's now-wife arrived an hour late to the baby shower my aunt threw for her and then didn't speak to ANY member of our family. She ignored all of us and only stuck to her own guests. When my aunt tried to talk to her, this girl actually got up in the middle of the effing conversation, without warning, and walked away, while my aunt was in mid-sentence. My aunt was so humiliated. And then she didn't even thank my aunt for putting on the bridal shower for her in the first place. Oh, and she left like 30 minutes before everyone else, with her gifts. It was SHOCKING.

    Needless to say, everyone hates her. Ha!

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  2. OMG! You could totally have a documentary about this wedding it sounds insane. As if you don't come down for two hours into the shower, especially rude to not meet and welcome people! If this is any telling of how the actual day will pan out I think you'll have some far tales to tell!

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  3. Holy moly. This shower did not go well, huh??

    Waiting two hours to show up to your own shower is incredibly rude. And the fact she got pictures with gifts and not people makes her seem very materialistic.

    What a disaster.

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  4. yikes.. that is not a shower i'd want to attend.. what was she doing in her room waiting for two hours till the guests arrived..

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  5. HA! I hate bridal showers and pretty much never go. I think I've been to maybe three and I just fake sick because I kind of can't stand brides. I also can't stand weddings? I was so laid back for my wedding and really, who fucking cares? It's a 50/50 shot you'll divorce anyways and then what? LOL! I am going to one soon for a family member and I'm dreading it because we all know if they make it a year it'll be a miracle, yet we're all driving down like a band of gypsies through the night. *sigh* THAT is going to be my gift considering the cost of gas!

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  6. Yikes, this is actually a good list. Sigh, super high stress events I guess

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  7. I love the bag that looks like a suit. Very cute.

    zane

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