Here’s the Background Information:
I’ve been dating my boyfriend, CJ, for almost 2 years this
May. His previous big relationship w/ his ex was ended in August 2009 & it
had been for 4 years. She dumped CJ for
another guy whom of which she is still dating. She has never re-contacted CJ
for any reason. It was a hard breakup for CJ. Of course it would have been due
to it being a 4 year relationship…
Anywho, fast forward time to last November. I went to a
local bagel shop to get breakfast one morning for CJ and I. I turned to the
soda refrigerators and notice a girl staring back at me with a man at her side.
At first there was no flicker of recognition, until it hit me. She was CJ’s ex.
I immediately looked forward and waited for my sandwiches trying to blend into
the crowd. I knew she had gone to stand in line and when I tried to steal a glance
over in their direction, the boyfriend was now staring back at me. He quickly
jerked his head forward so I wouldn’t catch him staring at me. Yeah, no, I
totally saw him. Busted. I get my sandwiches and leave….
Not less than a week later, I get an email for a friend request from this girl on one of my social networking sites' profile. I panicked and told CJ. He was shocked and asked
me to show him. I proceeded to log into my account to confirm the
friend request. BUT when I went to my profile, the friend request wasn’t there.
Odd…CJ and I came to the conclusion that she was creeping around my profile
& probably accidentally hit the Friend Request button by mistake & tried
to cover up, not realizing I get email alerts of friend requests. Weird but no
worries. Actually I thought it was sort of funny.
Present-Time
This Saturday I wake up and check my email. I had gotten a
friend request from a girl’s first name I didn’t recognize, but the last name struck a cord.
Apparently CJ’s ex has a twin sister. To which I then looked at my profile to confirm the request and AGAIN
it wasn’t there, only the email proof.
What the fuck? The odds of ONE mistaken “Add Friend” action
is totally pliable. The odds of her twin being just as stupid? I highly doubt
it. Also this alleged “Friend Request” was done at 3:15am…That’s a clue. I’m
wondering who was drunk or thought it would be cute to start yet again playing
with my profile. It could be that there is something wrong w/ my profile but I doubt it.
Now what to do with
this pesky lil problem? I have done nothing to provoke these girls or make
them hate me or anything except run into one of them by accident. Well I did
kiss CJ once in front of his ex at last year’s St. Patty’s Day Parade but in a
crowd of people so I doubt she saw me. Regardless that was almost a year ago.
This stalking is recent.
CJ and I have decided to send the ex an email and forward her
to two email Friend Requests. We are going to try and be adults about this and
ask them kindly to stop because honestly I’m in no mood for a lil High
Schoolish prank. We are in our mid-20’s not teenagers. Hopefully it will be
effective?!?!
Have you had a Cyber Stalking Situation before from a Significant
Others Ex?
How did you handle it?
I don't know if Trey's ex/exes have cyber-stalked me and I definitely don't want to know. >.<
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry they're so pathetic, though.
I wouldn't really know what to do at all and I really feel for you. I often imagine Joe's ex coming around here cuz i'm now living where they use to and getting me, but that might just be my overly active imagination. I think all they are wanting to do is to grab any info on you via your social networking.
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